What, who me?
In my last blog I wrote about how I came to understand what it meant to allow people to have their feelings and that people are entitled to their feelings. In this entry, I will address what it means to succumb to a victim mentality.
We’ve all heard sayings such as: “Don’t be such a victim, get off the pity-pot, the world is not conspiring against you, what makes you think you’re so important to be singled out for punishment?” I could go on, but I think you get the idea.
Through my understanding of how mind, thought and conscious work together to create life experiences, I realized that being a victim is really all in one’s head! It’s only when we think someone or the world is against us that we feel victimized and short-changed in life.
Even if someone WAS out to get back at us, so what? It wouldn’t make one bit of difference to us if we somehow didn’t know it. Maybe right now, there is someone thinking about how they can get even with us or make us unhappy just because they don’t like the way we think or the way we dress.
If we were unaware of it, we would not be affected by it at all. And in the opposite vein, if we thought someone was out to get us and that was not at all the case, we would still have the experience of being a victim even when it wasn’t happening.
So my question to you is this: how does it help you to think that, whether it’s true or not? Isn’t it best to just go about your life not caring about such things and focusing on what is going well in your life and what you do appreciate about your life?
Which tact will give you more of what you want? Which will give you the best feeling where you are more apt to accomplish the things that really matter to you?
People who feel victimized typically give up on things in that once mattered to them; this will get in their way in life. My advice is to not focus on what you don’t like in life, but rather focus on what you love about life, what turns you on, what makes your heart sing.