I had an interesting dream just before waking up today. It seemed to beg for reflection and sure enough I saw something a little deeper, about listening in a way that connects people, than ever before. I had to write about my discovery.Read More
Moods are not so mysterious after-all. If you notice when a low mood hits you, it might be the time of day that you are tired or hungry, often at the end of what you would call a difficult day. But if you look closer (look within) you'll see that you are feeling your thinking! Low moods are nothing more than low quality thoughts, i.e. 'what a difficult day this has been' or 'why does he always push my buttons,' or 'I'm so hungry and there's nothing I want in the refrigerator,' etc.Read More
Looking back through the years, I think every one of my clients have asked this question in different ways. They have wondered if they should love their spouses unconditionally like they love their children. They wondered if they were letting their partners take advantage of them or if they were letting them get away with something they shouldn’t. They wondered what was wrong with their relationship because their partner stopped courting them and things had gotten way too comfortable.Read More
I had a beautiful thought in the middle of a gym workout today that I want to share with you. Out of the blue it occurred to me how nice it was that I have a really lovely vision for a high level love filled relationship.Read More
A nutritionist I worked with some years ago, had this to say about the immune system: “It is a highly specialized front-line defense that identifies, and destroys disease-causing invaders.” Her description was quite compelling; it sounded like the latest high tech missile, capable of not only identifying, but also destroying the enemy.Read More
In “Oh, the Thinks You Can Think!” Dr. Seuss wrote all about our “thinker-upper machine.” He saw that our minds were marvelous, miraculous machines. Amazingly, we can even think about the fact that we are capable of thought production. How’s that for a mind bender?Read More
That sounds catchy but what exactly does it mean?
Years ago a colleague made a tape with that title for his therapy clients who wanted to lose weight. The title was so memorable that it comes to my mind now, some twenty years later.
Often we are so busy paying attention to what we see, hear, or feel in the moment, that we forget what is beneath the immediate surface of our daily lives. Most of us have a wealth of responsibility these days, and if it becomes necessary to add an elderly parent or a sick or disabled child into the mix, our already precarious balance is thrown off kilter. How do we prioritize when there is no time to do so?Read More
What I refer to here as “listen” therapy goes a step further and can go many degrees deeper. This type of therapy has been called: Psychology of Mind, Health Realization, Inside-Out Coaching, Clarity Coaching, Transformational Coaching, Innate Health and Principles Therapy. Whatever it is called, it is based on the understanding that all people have innate-health which gets covered up by self-limiting thoughts that people believe to be true.Read More
I’ve harkened back to this old John Lennon lyric many times throughout my life, when things didn’t go according to my plan. It’s brought me comfort to remember this happens to all humans, though I can’t say that I liked it very much. I think that’s true for most people – they may give in to, or even accept the concept but not exactly embrace what comes their way.Read More
This sentence emerged in an email to a friend, “It’s about seeing life as an ever-present potential for love.” I loved it – came out of the blue and it left me with a feeling that led me toward further exploration and to write a blog of what came from reflection and what might come as I write.Read More
Receptive communication sounds like an oxymoron, yet the two words are actually synonymous in the world of relationship coaching. As a practicing marriage and family therapist since 1985, I have listened to hundreds...okay, 1985; I guess - thousands, of couples tell me that their problem is communication.
One of the nicest things about having a blog is that it provides a recorded history, similar to journal writing. I can see that I’ve not written here for almost six months!
At the time of my last blog I wrote about looking for an illustrator for my young adult book, “It’s an Inside-Out World.” The project has since evolved to help school age children find greater mental health and wellbeing in schools and in their daily lives.
Valentine’s Day can be fraught with unmet expectations, disappointments, pressures, and dissatisfied egos. On the other hand, it can be enjoyed as a day set aside to honor and rejoice in the magnificent human capacity to feel love.Read More