What’s it all about?… It’s all about Thought!
I found myself saying something to a client the other day. I about fell off my chair because it came totally out of the blue but it rang with such truth that I found myself reflecting on it the following day. This is what came out of my mouth: We have the ability to create experience in order to experience creation.
The 3 principles show us how we are able to experience creation (including ourselves) through Mind, Thought and Consciousness. They also show us that we are capable of thinking about what we just thought. We can decide if it serves us (or anyone else) well; to continue down that road or take a detour and wait for a better thought to come along. Somehow a better thought always does come along.
We have the gift of choice. We have free will to accept the view we’re getting or wait for a better view to appear. It always does. All it takes is a little patience and a willingness to let go of our hold on the thinking that gives us a bad feeling.
I know it doesn’t always appear that way. Sometimes it seems as though we have no choice but to believe in something that is giving us a bad feeling and in fact, we can find any number of ways to validate what we think.
I’ve heard people say things like: “my life sucks,” when at other times the same person can realize what an amazing gift it is to be a conscious human in a world of infinite Universes with vast, breathtaking landscapes and an array of birds and animals that the best Disney or Pixar artists could never come up with.
Like the rudder of a ship, if we learn to use out thoughts wisely, we’ll be guided well through life.
People behave according to how they think; this is as true for executives as it is for teenagers.
We are capable of thinking anything, some of it is hurtful to ourselves and to others. The good news is that thoughts have no meaning. We are the ones who assign meaning to what we think; but our feelings will never fool us: they will tell us if we’re up or down, on track or off-track, if we pay attention then we see how to adjust.
It becomes automatic. Once we benefit from the results, we begin to trust more and more and we become more and more aware of how the Three Principles of Mind, Thought and Consciousness work within everyone. Syd Banks taught me how to use the Three Principles as a rudder that will guide me though life.
It’s not about believing in anything it’s about witnessing how the Three Principles affect our lives then we have control of our rudder; it all takes place within us. All we have to do is to understand how it works and then pay attention.
We’re always one thought away from a nicer feeling; if you can find that one thought. Sydney Banks
I had an interesting insight in Yoga tonight. At first I felt uncomfortable, thinking how much I didn’t want to be there but feeling as though I had to be because it was good for me. I wasn’t into it at all, my mind and body were elsewhere. I couldn’t wait to get home and tend to the long list of tasks that were on my mind, pestering me to get them done.
Then, all of a sudden, like a bolt of lightening, I realized that all these thoughts that were plaguing my mind were my own creation and I could accept them or dismiss them.
Another bolt of lightening and they were gone. The next moment I felt flooded with gratitude for being able to have this time alone on my yoga mat listening to my teacher’s instruction accompanied by soothing music in the background.
What could be better than to “be here now” to use an old cliche popularized by Richard Alpert’s book by that name. I felt grateful for so much in the next moments; for the ability to take this class, for the ability to move my body into the various postures, and for the ability to let go of any desire to judge myself.
I did not plant those thoughts in my mind, they simply came to me as a result of letting go of the negative thoughts. I cleared my mind enough for higher quality thoughts to enter in. I wonder now, how long my inner turmoil would have lasted had I not known about the three principles that teach us about the fleeting nature of thought and that we can harness that natural capacity once we know how it works.
What, who me?
In my last blog I wrote about how I came to understand what it meant to allow people to have their feelings and that people are entitled to their feelings. In this entry, I will address what it means to succumb to a victim mentality.
We’ve all heard sayings such as: “Don’t be such a victim, get off the pity-pot, the world is not conspiring against you, what makes you think you’re so important to be singled out for punishment?” I could go on, but I think you get the idea.
Through my understanding of how mind, thought and conscious work together to create life experiences, I realized that being a victim is really all in one’s head! It’s only when we think someone or the world is against us that we feel victimized and short-changed in life.
Even if someone WAS out to get back at us, so what? It wouldn’t make one bit of difference to us if we somehow didn’t know it. Maybe right now, there is someone thinking about how they can get even with us or make us unhappy just because they don’t like the way we think or the way we dress.
If we were unaware of it, we would not be affected by it at all. And in the opposite vein, if we thought someone was out to get us and that was not at all the case, we would still have the experience of being a victim even when it wasn’t happening.
So my question to you is this: how does it help you to think that, whether it’s true or not? Isn’t it best to just go about your life not caring about such things and focusing on what is going well in your life and what you do appreciate about your life?
Which tact will give you more of what you want? Which will give you the best feeling where you are more apt to accomplish the things that really matter to you?
People who feel victimized typically give up on things in that once mattered to them; this will get in their way in life. My advice is to not focus on what you don’t like in life, but rather focus on what you love about life, what turns you on, what makes your heart sing.
…probably not how you think,
however.Have you noticed that sometimes we create things we don’t want, we create spills, messes and accidents in the physical realm. So we clean up, brush off and start again. We all want to do our level best but it doesn’t always work out that way.
It turns out that it is the same in our mind. Sometimes we create ideas we don’t want, that don’t serve us well. We can change gears, we don’t have to believe in any idea that we or someone else creates. How perfect is that?
When I was training to be a LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) I learned that everyone was entitled to their feelings. I thought, that sounds good but I had no idea what it really meant and no one could gave me a satisfactory answer in Graduate School. Then when I learned about the 3 principles, from Syd Banks, it was explained to me.
What I realized is that we can’t help what we feel because it is simply the result of what we think. The great news is that we are capable of not taking it seriously and then it leaves us quickly.
Can you imagine being in a relationship with someone who gets that? It sure alleviates the automatic knee jerk reaction that leads to fighting. Anyone who really understands the 3 Principles will realize that feelings; yours or theirs come from the thought of the moment and every thought passes eventually. And if you’re human (you must be if you’re reading this) then you’ll have compassion for anyone having a bad time because you know what it is like – you’ve been there; it feels terrible and so you’ll have compassion even when you’re being blamed for something you didn’t do.
When you realize that your experience originated from the 3 Principles at work within yourself, you can utilize it to it’s best advantage by returning to the source before the experience played out; back to a quiet mind.
Trying to manipulate your environment or other people will never work out. That is like trying to change the direction of a tennis ball after it’s hit the racket or the course of a golf ball after the club has made contact – a waste of energy, it won’t get you anywhere. It’s like working against nature.
We’re talking about the quality of your life. That’s huge! Looking out at life from this perspective alters just about everything ~ for the good, I can assure you! My advice is to find out as much as you can about how the 3 Principles work for all humanity.
There are ample books, CD’s,teachers, websites, seminars, retreats to help you experience the depths of your own essence. I have provided links throughout this website to assist you. I’m happy to act as your guide.