On finding a fresh perspective:
A client said something that really tickled me yesterday, she said: “I just want to get outside of myself.” I thought, “what a brilliant statement.” Isn’t that what we all want – to be outside of ourselves? Isn’t that where we are most creative, generous, compassionate, understanding and happy?
The opposite of being outside ourselves would be us being conscious of only ourselves, which leaves us feeling self-conscious; worrying about how we’re doing, wondering if we look OK, judging ourselves, etc. etc. It feels heavy and tedious when we find ourselves in that space.
Knowing it’s just a temporary thought, however, helps us go beyond that space into a more open, airy space where we SEE the bigger picture.
When we’re self-conscious we forget that we are participants in the most amazing thing imaginable – life! It’s no longer about our personal lives, it becomes about life — magnificent, awe inspiring, beautiful, grand, life.
The more I notice this, the more I seem to go to the bigger, grander space. My personal life becomes diffused in the background and birds, trees, clouds and mountains become sharper and brighter, in the foreground. We forget that we have the choice of where we want to place our focus and our energy. The more time we spend in the bigger picture, it seems, the easier it is to bring that feeling of love back to our personal lives, because then we remember that we are actually a part of the big picture.
There happens to be a beautiful, magnificent way to “be inside ourselves.” When we’re quiet minded, not thinking about ourselves but observing the never ending reservoir of creative ideas and beautiful experiences. What I refer to here, is deep inside ourselves, past our personalities, our ego, our thoughts about what life should be like.
When we’re caught off guard, we may be so quiet that the world seems to open up in technicolor right in front of us. We notice beauty we never noticed before, we notice interesting things we missed on our way to work, on the same path we take every day yet never noticed that majestic tree or that interesting building. Where were we? Probably deep in thought, in our heads rather than deep in our hearts.
There is no better place to be then deep inside ourselves because that is also where the essence of life resides, we are all part of that essence. Syd Banks often said: “Look within, there is where all the answers lie.
Will you be ruled by your own creations? Or will you recognize what is worth following and what is worth letting go of?
I woke up with this thought today: An experience is not THE experience, as we will tend to think since Consciousness brings thoughts that we think to life.
It will appear as though we have no choice in regards to the thoughts we think, due to genes or hard-wiring or the way that we were raised. It is the second and third thoughts about the experience that cause us to fall prey to upset and troubles, despite the needlessness of doing so.
Even when it won’t help us or anyone else to stay there feeling bad, feeling as though we’ve been dealt a really bad hand in life, we sometimes stay mired in it. At times life can feel like that. “Why me, why is the world out to get me, I’m so unlucky, I have to fight for everything in life”… you get the picture.
The fact is, WE imbue every experience with meaning, much the way the special effects department of Universal Studios does (an apt name for this analogy.) We alone decide if it is good, bad, important or unimportant, in the scheme of things; troubling or an exhilarating challenge. We alone decide.
It appears to be out of our control and as far as I can tell – it is, the initial hit of it, that is, (the experience, whatever it is) but we can also say to ourselves – you know what – I just don’t want to go there, it won’t benefit me or anyone to do so. I just don’t want to maintain this bad experience by thinking about it, talking about it, or doing anything else with it. I’m going to leave it alone; and even though it’s tempting to pull it apart, I’m not an animal with a bone full of meat – it will not feed me
I have the power to be strict with my thoughts and dismiss them as meaningless to my overall life, a temporary blip on the screen, so to speak. Or I can allow myself to continue to think what I’m thinking in this moment, if I want to, even when, at some level, I know that it’s not beneficial to do so.
The choice is always mine and when I dig my heels in, no one can convince me otherwise. I’d rather dig my heels into KNOWING that my mind will change at some point, and probably a whole lot quicker if I take my focus off the negative thoughts that pull me away from enjoying life.
There’s another moment and another moment and without even realizing it, I’m suddenly in a nice frame of mind again, enjoying life, maybe even seeing the same experience in a new light.
I’ve had many experiences of problems turning into challenges just by being strict with my thinking and where I allow it to take me. I do not have to follow any particular thought line. That’s true freedom. Interestingly, I’m really the warden of my life; I hold the keys and the shackles. I’m thrilled that I found out where I needed to go to find a strict warden! It’s like using the key to release myself from my own thinking. Anyone who truly SEES how this works can’t help but have an improved life experience.
I want to share something I enjoyed reading that my friend John Wood of Australia wrote:
Beyond frozen fears and unmet needs lies a realm; a realm unrivaled.
Beyond beliefs and judgments is a place; a place called compassion or kindness.
Beyond acceptance and tolerance is a space; a space of innocence.
An all embracing warmth melting the edges of division; evaporating the illusion of you and me.
This internal universe is home, is love; is life unbridled.