On finding a fresh perspective:
A client said something that really tickled me yesterday, she said: “I just want to get outside of myself.” I thought, “what a brilliant statement.” Isn’t that what we all want – to be outside of ourselves? Isn’t that where we are most creative, generous, compassionate, understanding and happy?
The opposite of being outside ourselves would be us being conscious of only ourselves, which leaves us feeling self-conscious; worrying about how we’re doing, wondering if we look OK, judging ourselves, etc. etc. It feels heavy and tedious when we find ourselves in that space.
Knowing it’s just a temporary thought, however, helps us go beyond that space into a more open, airy space where we SEE the bigger picture.
When we’re self-conscious we forget that we are participants in the most amazing thing imaginable – life! It’s no longer about our personal lives, it becomes about life — magnificent, awe inspiring, beautiful, grand, life.
The more I notice this, the more I seem to go to the bigger, grander space. My personal life becomes diffused in the background and birds, trees, clouds and mountains become sharper and brighter, in the foreground. We forget that we have the choice of where we want to place our focus and our energy. The more time we spend in the bigger picture, it seems, the easier it is to bring that feeling of love back to our personal lives, because then we remember that we are actually a part of the big picture.
There happens to be a beautiful, magnificent way to “be inside ourselves.” When we’re quiet minded, not thinking about ourselves but observing the never ending reservoir of creative ideas and beautiful experiences. What I refer to here, is deep inside ourselves, past our personalities, our ego, our thoughts about what life should be like.
When we’re caught off guard, we may be so quiet that the world seems to open up in technicolor right in front of us. We notice beauty we never noticed before, we notice interesting things we missed on our way to work, on the same path we take every day yet never noticed that majestic tree or that interesting building. Where were we? Probably deep in thought, in our heads rather than deep in our hearts.
There is no better place to be then deep inside ourselves because that is also where the essence of life resides, we are all part of that essence. Syd Banks often said: “Look within, there is where all the answers lie.