Why do we spend our precious time judging ourselves and others? It’s a habit of thinking that drifts away when you’ve reached a greater depth.

Why is it that, with all the rhetoric I've grown up with, i.e. we are all the same, we come from the same source, the color of our blood is the same, etc. etc. why do we still live in a world of bigotry and racism? It defies logic. Racism, bigotry and inequality are not logical.

We have all been tested over the past months; some physically, others mentally and spiritually, as we attempt to make sense of a pandemic. I notice my thoughts jumping from wondering how we will get through this to hoping for a healthier planet to compassion for those who are experiencing sickness and lost loved ones; back and forth, in no particular order.

A new day is dawning with a fresh look! I know that's hard to imagine given the Pandemic we find ourselves currently in, and through no fault of our own. As I have experienced my first week of social distancing, My hope is that it will help my readers going through their own thoughts and emotions about it all.

You (and everyone on the planet) already have all the self-esteem anyone could ever need in life - it's buried underneath insecure thinking. But for the negative personal self-talk we feed ourselves with, we are present in the moment. Underneath our negative self talk lies a totally impersonal Love of Creation that we are privy to, a love that is so deep, it can't be explained, we just know it when we feel it - everyone does! Whether they realize that fact or not.

I had an interesting dream just before waking up today. It seemed to beg for reflection and sure enough I saw something a little deeper, about listening in a way that connects people, than ever before. I had to write about my discovery.

Moods are not so mysterious after-all. If you notice when a low mood hits you, it might be the time of day that you are tired or hungry, often at the end of what you would call a difficult day. But if you look closer (look within) you'll see that you are feeling your thinking! Low moods are nothing more than low quality thoughts, i.e. 'what a difficult day this has been' or 'why does he always push my buttons,' or 'I'm so hungry and there's nothing I want in the refrigerator,' etc.

Looking back through the years, I think every one of my clients have asked this question in different ways. They have wondered if they should love their spouses unconditionally like they love their children. They wondered if they were letting their partners take advantage of them or if they were letting them get away with something they shouldn’t. They wondered what was wrong with their relationship because their partner stopped courting them and things had gotten way too comfortable.

I had a beautiful thought in the middle of a gym workout today that I want to share with you. Out of the blue it occurred to me how nice it was that I have a really lovely vision for a high level love filled relationship.

A nutritionist I worked with some years ago, had this to say about the immune system: “It is a highly specialized front-line defense that identifies, and destroys disease-causing invaders.” Her description was quite compelling; it sounded like the latest high tech missile, capable of not only identifying, but also destroying the enemy.

In “Oh, the Thinks You Can Think!” Dr. Seuss wrote all about our “thinker-upper machine.” He saw that our minds were marvelous, miraculous machines. Amazingly, we can even think about the fact that we are capable of thought production. How’s that for a mind bender?

That sounds catchy but what exactly does it mean?
Years ago a colleague made a tape with that title for his therapy clients who wanted to lose weight. The title was so memorable that it comes to my mind now, some twenty years later.

Often we are so busy paying attention to what we see, hear, or feel in the moment, that we forget what is beneath the immediate surface of our daily lives. Most of us have a wealth of responsibility these days, and if it becomes necessary to add an elderly parent or a sick or disabled child into the mix, our already precarious balance is thrown off kilter. How do we prioritize when there is no time to do so?

What I refer to here as “listen” therapy goes a step further and can go many degrees deeper. This type of therapy has been called: Psychology of Mind, Health Realization, Inside-Out Coaching, Clarity Coaching, Transformational Coaching, Innate Health and Principles Therapy. Whatever it is called, it is based on the understanding that all people have innate-health which gets covered up by self-limiting thoughts that people believe to be true.

I’ve harkened back to this old John Lennon lyric many times throughout my life, when things didn’t go according to my plan. It’s brought me comfort to remember this happens to all humans, though I can’t say that I liked it very much. I think that’s true for most people – they may give in to, or even accept the concept but not exactly embrace what comes their way.