We all live in our own separate realities, shaped throughout our lives by the stories we’ve heard, and the stories we tell ourselves; all personally distorted views we’ve adopted without question. These separate realities can lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and a sense of disconnection in our relationships. We create expectations, comparisons, and judgments, often leading to feelings of inadequacy.

What if there was never a good reason to lie to anyone, ever; beyond the fear of being struck by lightning or growing a nose the length of Pinocchio’s? What if we were not afraid, to tell the truth, because we were not afraid to be vulnerable, knowing that everyone is pure spirit, housed within an imperfect body and brain that makes mistakes?

Why do we spend our precious time judging ourselves and others? It’s a habit of thinking that drifts away when you’ve reached a greater depth.

Why is it that, with all the rhetoric I've grown up with, i.e. we are all the same, we come from the same source, the color of our blood is the same, etc. etc. why do we still live in a world of bigotry and racism? It defies logic. Racism, bigotry and inequality are not logical.

That sounds catchy but what exactly does it mean?
Years ago a colleague made a tape with that title for his therapy clients who wanted to lose weight. The title was so memorable that it comes to my mind now, some twenty years later.